How do you talk to your child (14yo) if they think they are bi-sexual, especially if you don’t agree with it
We tell them that it is a private activity (just for you) and that it should happen in a private place.
Now, it can take a few years for kids to understand the concepts of private and public but eventually they reach an age where iit sinks in, and they then start to ‘fiddle’ in private and you are ‘none the wiser’ to it.
You can use it as an opportunity to start talking about public and private, body parts, etc. You can find some great books that will help you to get started at my new parent resource:
She has had a long term relationship with a woman and another with a man
Hmmm… okay by 14 they usually know if they are or they are still trying to work it out. Some research suggests that it is still an age of exploration and that nothing is certain, but others disagree. Either way, nothing at this age is set in stone!
The main thing is to be a loving and supportive parent. ‘Coming out’ is still a hard thing to do (discrimination is still rife, even in this day and age), so your child needs to know that you still love them etc.
So if you disagree, you need to explain ‘why’ to your child so that they can understand where you are coming from.
Personally, I would take the low key ‘whatever’ approach and see how things develop. And just keep conversations open – by 14 they usually know where to find information and there are a lot of websites and organisations that support youth in coming out. But they still need to know that they can come and talk to you – the fact that your 14 year old has told you this shows that you must be doing something right!
And make sure that you chat about discrimination in general – some teens are very naive about how judgemental society is.
Hi Alicia My daughter is bi and told me when she was about 14. I had already guessed by the posters she was putting on her wall. It wasn’t a problem for me but because it didn’t change who she was/is or my love for her.
If it is any help for you, she explained to me that she doesn’t see people as male or female, she feels an attraction for them or not. I hadn’t thought about that before. For the majority of kids, it isn’t something they choose or control It’s just how they are.
She is now 26. She says that men are much easier and she’s not in any hurry to go the woman way again! She said all that PMS at the same time (because women living together tend to synch their periods) was too much!!
It doesn’t matter whether your child is bi or not… you can’t choose their partners for them. You can only wish them happiness!
i fully disagree that it’s not appropriate to allow babies to be naked in public, especially if there is a water park
Nicholas, that is a great comment as it comes down to our own personal values. A lot of the stuff that we talk to our kids about is value laden.
Often, there is no right or www.hookupdate.net/mingle2-review wrong as it is based on what we believe. And as long as there is no danger to the child, whatever we choose to do is fine.